Non-Violent Communication

I find that the deceptively simple yet effective guidelines outlined by Marshall Rosenberg in Non-Violent Communication are often very useful to clients and groups. NVC is based on the principles of nonviolence– a natural state of compassion in the heart. NVC starts with assumption that we all have access to our empathic caring. Violent behaviors—whether verbal or physical— are most often learned through and supported by the prevailing culture and they CAN change.

NVC also assumes that we all share the same basic human needs, and that each of our actions is a strategy to meet one or more of these needs (skillfully or not). When we connect with those needs in ourselves and others and communicate them well, we experience greater authenticity, increased understanding of and connection to others, and a transformation of conflict.